Intimacy Needs Assessment Tool

Intimacy is far more than physical closeness - it’s the feeling of being truly seen, understood, and valued by your partner. But many of us have never stopped to think about what we actually need to feel intimate and connected. Our Intimacy Needs Assessment helps you identify your core intimacy needs across emotional, physical, and communication dimensions, giving you a clearer picture of yourself and a stronger foundation for your relationship.

Why Take Our Intimacy Needs Assessment?

• Covers all forms of intimacy - emotional, physical, intellectual, and communicative.
• Helps you articulate needs that can be hard to put into words.
• Useful whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship.
• Provides personalised insights based on your responses.
• A great conversation starter to share with a partner.

How to Take the Assessment:

1. Read each statement carefully and respond honestly – there are no right or wrong answers.
2. Work through all sections at your own pace.
3. Submit your responses to receive your personalised intimacy needs profile.
4. Review your results and consider sharing them with your partner.

 

Understanding your own intimacy needs is the first step to communicating them – and communication is the foundation of any fulfilling relationship. Use your results as a starting point for an honest conversation with your partner about what makes you feel close, safe, and truly connected.

Frequently Asked Questions

What does intimacy actually mean?

Intimacy refers to a deep sense of closeness and connection with another person. It includes emotional intimacy (feeling understood and accepted), physical intimacy (touch, affection, and sexual connection), intellectual intimacy (sharing thoughts and ideas), and communicative intimacy (feeling heard and able to talk openly). Healthy relationships usually involve a blend of all of these.

Can I take this assessment on my own without a partner?

Yes, and it’s actually very valuable to do so. Self-awareness is the starting point for healthy relationships. Understanding your own needs helps you communicate more clearly with a current or future partner, and helps you recognise whether your needs are being met.

Should my partner take the assessment too?

It can be a great idea. When both partners understand their own needs and share them with each other, it opens the door to more honest, compassionate conversations about the relationship. You can each take it separately and then compare your results together.

Is my information kept private?

Yes. Your responses are used only to generate your results within the session and are not stored, logged, or shared. Once you close the page, your answers are gone.