STI Conversation Planner

Talking about STI testing can feel personal, especially with a new partner or when a couple is considering changing condom or barrier use. The STI Conversation Planner gives you direct, non-accusatory phrases for starting that discussion without turning it into an interrogation.

What situations does the planner cover?

• A new sexual partner
• Considering stopping condoms or barriers
• A possible exposure
• Routine sexual-health conversations

How to use the planner

1. Choose the situation that best matches what you need to discuss.
2. Select Build My Conversation.
3. Read the suggested conversation starters.
4. Adapt the wording to sound natural while keeping the question clear.
5. Give the other person space to share their information, ask questions or suggest a different plan.

What to discuss

A useful STI conversation may include when each person was last tested, what tests were included, what protection you want to use and whether exclusivity assumptions have been discussed. Testing history is one piece of information, not proof that there is no risk. Some infections may not cause obvious symptoms, and different tests may be appropriate depending on anatomy, sexual practices and timing.

If there has been a possible exposure, avoid guessing based on appearance or symptoms. A healthcare professional can advise on testing, timing, treatment or temporary precautions based on the situation.

Why tone matters

The goal is to share responsibility for sexual health. Asking “When were you last tested?” works better when you are also willing to share your own testing history. Avoid framing testing as evidence of mistrust or assuming that an STI automatically proves dishonesty.

Privacy

We do not store any data or send it to an external service.

Use the planner to make a potentially awkward conversation more straightforward. Clear sexual-health discussions can help both people make informed choices about protection and next steps.

Frequently Asked Questions

Does the STI Conversation Planner tell me which tests I need?

No. It provides conversation starters only. Testing needs depend on individual circumstances and should be discussed with a healthcare professional when needed.

Can I tell if someone has an STI from symptoms?

No. Some infections can have few or no obvious symptoms. Appearance cannot confirm STI status.

Should I ask a new partner about testing?

If sexual activity is being considered, testing and protection can be reasonable topics to discuss as part of informed decision-making.

What if I may have had an exposure?

Tell your partner before further sexual activity and seek appropriate medical guidance about testing, timing and precautions.

Does a negative test mean there is no risk?

Not necessarily. Tests differ, timing matters, and not every infection is covered by every screening panel.

Are my selections saved?

No. We do not store any data or send it to an external service.

Is this tool medical advice?

No. It is a communication aid and cannot replace personalised guidance from a qualified healthcare professional.