The Crisscross

Also known as the X Position, this technique is for couples who want to take it slow and gradually build to a more explosive finale. Partners sit on the bed in front of each other, and legs forward. The man will sit across his partner making a T shape, and then lift his right leg over her left leg, while the woman lifts her right leg over his shoulder. He then inserts his penis as they both move closer to each other, then they both lie back as the legs form the letter X.

In this position, only shallow thrusts or gyrations of the penis may be done, thus focusing the sensation on the head of the penis and the front wall of the vagina.

Crisscross is a variation of spooning and  is great for shallow grinding, arousing visuals, and better control. Similar to the Spooning position, the woman starts by lying on her side, with her arms above her head or beside her head in a crisscross. The man also lies on his side but his body is perpendicular to hers.

She can raise her top leg so he may slide in between her thighs. She can control the depth and intensity of the penetration by shifting her torso to the left or right, whichever feels best for her. She may swivel her hips as well. If she needs a little more action, her hands are free to stimulate her clitoris, nipples, or breasts.

He can hold on to her shoulders to assist with penetration and thrusting. The perpendicular angle lets him have some great visuals of his penis going in and out. The thrusting from this angle can be shallow, focusing on her G-spot, or deeper, for intense pleasure.

There is little eye contact and skin-to-skin intimacy in this position, but couples can use that to their advantage. This is a perfect time to indulge in private fantasies or role-play sex with a stranger.